He said to them, "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her; and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery." - Mark 10.11-12
A recent financial advice column asks the romantic question, "Should you get a divorce now or later?" The piece goes on to analyze several impending changes in the income tax code and weigh each in the balances of whether it would leave someone richer or poorer after splitting up a marriage. Spoiler alert: Nobody really seems to know.
I don't understand economics. I've always sympathized with President Harry Truman, who lamented, "Give me a one-handed economist. Mine all say, 'on the one hand. . .but on the other hand. . . ." What I do understand is the logical fallacy of the false dilemma: The headline asks of divorce only "when" without leaving any room for "whether."
Another thing I understand is that Jesus thinks divorce is a really bad idea. Yes, Scripture does allow for exceptions to this guideline. Yes, circumstances count and passages like this one have been used repeatedly to entomb women in abusive relationships. But at least Christians should be able to agree that the couple's tax bracket is not the place to begin pondering. A prenuptial agreement makes as much sense to me as buying the extended warranty: I always want to ask the guy, "So, you're telling me your product is such a piece of junk that I should bet on it breaking down?"
I'm not talking to those who have suffered through the dissolution of a marriage. I know few people who despise divorce quite as much as those who have been its victims. And we do well to remember that the woman in John 8 appears on trial alone and Jesus takes her part against an unjust system. But I don't think it's too much to ask that Christians, faced with the question, "Should you get a divorce now or later?" would answer, "No."